"LET THERE BE LIGHT" Ministries
EMOTIONS, part 3 - Love in Marriage/Sex quotes
1) The Emotion of Love Dealing With Marriage/Sex
God creates life by speaking things into existence (Genesis 1:3-31, 2:1-3; Psalms 33:8-9). Thus the kind of love the Almighty expresses and manifests to all mankind as their Creator is that of a Father to His children – which is completely non-sexual in nature. But mankind were created with an additional form of love that God does not manifest, being created with emotions and bodily functions to create life only through sexual intimacy, and were commanded to “be fruitful, and multiply and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28, 9:1).
This means that while God’s followers are called to express and manifest the same kind of self-denying and self-sacrificing love to others that God is and does – which is completely non-sexual in nature, yet there is another type of self-denying and self-sacrificing love that is uniquely human and which is sexual in nature.
2) Since the hearts of fallen human beings are desperately wicked, then this emotion of love in the sexual form has also become selfishly evil and perverted.
“Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul”. 1 Peter 2:11.
“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness...and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” Galatians 5:19-20.
“This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust (passion) of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would....And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.” Galatians 5:16-17, 24-25.
As God has called all His followers to be holy in character (Leviticus 19:2; 1 Peter 1:15-16), then we must carefully guard and control our emotion of love in all its forms, especially in this sexual area.
3) Genesis chapters 1-4 reveals 5 major areas that show what is the true and proper way to express and manifest this emotion of love in its sexual form.
First Area - God first made man – Adam, and then from Adam God made a woman – Eve (Genesis 2:21-22, 1:27), and He did not create any other humans. This fact of truth reveals that the God-ordained true expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form is that potential marriage partners were to be of a single unmarried male and a single unmarried female.
Satan's false expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form would be just the opposite – that potential marriage partners can be of the same sex, or that there can be more than just one partner.
“Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools...Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.” Romans 1:21-22, 24-27.
“If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” Leviticus 20:13.
These verses reveal that all sexual perversion, such as homosexuality and lesbianism, is an abomination! And those who choose to follow this Satanic false form of self-pleasing love will reap sadness and misery, and ultimately destruction if it is not stopped and repented of. But choosing to follow the God-ordained true form of self-denying love in its sexual form will bring you true happiness and joy, and can ultimately eternal life.
4) Second Area - Adam and Eve were not created married. When Adam saw Eve he truly fell in love with her, and she with him (Genesis 2:23-24). This fact of truth reveals that the God-ordained true expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form is that there must be true love existing between both potential marriage partners.
But the Devil's false expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form would be just the opposite – that potential marriage partners are to unite without both being truly in love.
“And Judah took a wife for Er his firstborn, whose name was Tamar. And Er, Judah's firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD; and the LORD slew him. And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother. And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.” Genesis 38:6-10.
Onan did not truly love Tamar when he married her. His lack of self-denying love for her led him to take advantage of Tamar by using her only for sexual pleasure, while refusing to be a true loving husband to her. This reveals that following God's true form of self-denying love in its sexual form will bring you true happiness and joy. But choosing Satan's false form by sexually uniting together without both truly loving each other will only bring sadness and misery, and can ultimately bring you destruction.
5) Third Area - God had brought Eve to Adam to become His wife, which meant that God Himself was specifically involved in making this marrital match (Genesis 2:22, 3:12). This fact of truth reveals that the God-ordained true expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form is that both potential marriage partners must make sure that God has specifically chosen each to be together with the other. While the Satanic expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form is that potential marriage partners can unite without one or both giving any thought as to whether or not God is specifically involved in their union.
“And Amnon said unto Tamar (not the same Tamar as with Onan), Bring the meat into the chamber, that I may eat of thine hand. And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them into the chamber to Amnon her brother. And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, Come lie with me, my sister. And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly. And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee. Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her. Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone. And she said unto him, There is no cause: this evil in sending me away is greater than the other that thou didst unto me. But he would not hearken unto her. Then he called his servant that ministered unto him, and said, Put now this woman out from me, and bolt the door after her....
“And Absalom spake unto his brother Amnon neither good nor bad: for Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar....Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, Mark ye now when Amnon's heart is merry with wine, and when I say unto you, Smite Amnon; then kill him...And the servants of Absalom did unto Amnon as Absalom had commanded....for by the appointment of Absalom this hath been determined from the day that he forced his sister Tamar.” 2 Samuel 13:10-17, 22, 28-29, 32.
These verses reveal that Amnon had no thought of God in his desire for Tamar, but only thought of satisfying his own carnal lust. It is this same lack of seeking God’s approval for a proper life partner that is one of the biggest reasons why there are so many failed marriages! Choosing God's true form of self-denying love in its sexual form will bring you true happiness and joy. But choosing to follow Satan's false form by joining together without God being involved in the match-up will only bring you sadness and misery, and can ultimately bring you destruction.
6) Fourth Area - After Adam and Eve were married, they then united together in the flesh through sexual intercourse (Genesis 4:1). This fact of truth reveals that the God-ordained true expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form is that intercourse between a man and woman is to only occur after marriage and not before. Which means that the Satanic form is that men and women are free to have sexual intercourse before they are married.
“Now the body is not for fornication (sexual relations outside of marriage), but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
“It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” 1 Corinthians 6:13-20, 7:1-2.
These verses reveal that having sexual relations outside of marriage is committing fornication, and fornication is a sin. In addition, those who fornicate are referred to as being harlots or prostitutes, and are sinning against their own body and defiling this temple of God! Following God's true form of self-denying love in its sexual form by abstaining from sexual relations until after marriage will bring you true happiness and joy. But following the Satanic false form of self-pleasing love by indulging in pre-marital sex will bring sadness and misery, and can ultimately bring you destruction.
7) Fifth Area - In the action of Adam and Eve uniting together sexually, they cleaved together and became of one flesh (Genesis 2:24). This fact of truth revealed that the God-ordained true expression and manifestation of this emotion of love in the sexual form is that sexual intercourse unites the husband and his wife together as being one in flesh -- no longer two independent individuals, but now united as one.
The Hebrew word for “cleave” is “dabaq”, which translates and means “to cling, to adhere, to cleave, to be joined, to stick” (Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance, word #1692). These words indicate that two separate entities never fully become just one solid entity in reality, but that these two are endeavoring to become one through a life-long process of continuously pressing closer together in unity. This shows that the now sexually joined-in-flesh couple need to faithfully cleave, cling, adhere and stick together in a life-long process of continuously pressing closer as one, without allowing a third party entering in to break up this life-long sacred endeavor.
“And he (Jesus) answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:4-6.
But the Satanic form of this emotion of love in the sexual form is that the married couple do not have to remain faithful to each other, but can have sexual intercourse with others.
“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man: Matthew 15:19-20.
“And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. And the man that lieth with his father's wife hath uncovered his father's nakedness: both of them shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. And if a man lie with his daughter in law, both of them shall surely be put to death: they have wrought confusion; their blood shall be upon them.” Leviticus 20:10-12.
“But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.” Proverbs 6:32.
Adultery means “to apostatize, [one] that breaketh wedlock” (Strong’s Hebrew word #5003). Wedlock means “the state of being a married couple voluntarily joined for life” (Online Free Dictionary, Thesaurus, under word Wedlock, at http://www.thefreedictionary.com/wedlock, accessed 10-11-21). This means that in the very act of sexually uniting yourself with another partner you have committed apostasy against your spouse, because now you have united one-in-flesh with a third party. Your wed-lock union of being of one-flesh with your spouse is now completely broken by this adultery and apostasy with another. This is why God forbids all human beings from committing adultery (Exodus 20:14) which makes it a sin to do so (1 John 3:4)!
Choosing to follow God's true form of self-denying love in its sexual form by only having sexual relations with your spouse and not with any other person will bring you true happiness and joy. But following Satan's false form by committing adultery and apostasy against your spouse will bring you sadness and misery, and can ultimately bring you destruction.
"He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind". Proverbs 11:29.
"[But instead] rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings. His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins. He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray." Proverbs 5:18-23.