"LET THERE BE LIGHT" Ministries
EMOTIONS, part 19 - Love Shown to Brothers and Sisters
In Christ ...cont... quotes
1) Unsettled problems Between Brothers or Sisters
“Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican. Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” Matthew 18:15-20.
Christ declares there to be 4 different steps which He commands His people to follow in dealing with those who sin against them:
Step #1: “tell him his fault between thee and him alone”. But “if he will not hear thee” then
Step #2: “take with thee one or two more”. But “if he shall neglect to hear them” then
Step #3: “tell it to the church”. But “if he neglect to hear the church” then
Step #4: “let him be unto thee as a heathen”.
2) Step #1: “tell him his fault between thee and him alone”
If a brother or a sister of the faith commits sin against you, their sin is to remain contained between you two alone. You are not to share their sin with any other person until the proper time arrives to go to Step #2. If you say anything to any one else about this guilty party, then you have directly disobeyed your Lord God Jesus Christ, and would now be guilty of sinning against the guilty party in this issue and would need to repent to them for your sin!
“I said, I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle, while the wicked is before me.” Psalms 39:1.
Sufficient time must be given to your guilty brother or sister to allow the Holy Spirit to work upon their heart to honestly see their wrong and fully repent of it. There is no set time limit involved in following Step #1, because it all depends on how the guilty party consistently responds to your loving and proper Christian efforts to bring them to repentance.
“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.” Galatians 6:1.
This verse reveals that only those who are spiritually minded, not carnally minded, are given permission from God to follow this first step in pointing out the sins and faults of another against them. If you have not yet fully crucified self and are still carnal, then do not follow this first step until you are converted and are now spiritually minded! Those who are carnal minded can be detected “by their fruits ye shall know them” (Matthew 7:20).
If this first step has not been properly followed, then the innocent party has no Biblical right to move on to Step #2.
“And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother's eye.” Luke 6:41-42.
These verses reveal that if a brother or sister has indeed sinned against you, first make sure that self is fully crucified in you before beginning to follow Matthew 18 with them. That way there will be no self in you to conflict with any self in them.
After you have repeatedly tried in the right spiritual mind to lovingly lead the guilty party towards recognizing, confessing and repenting of their sin against you, and yet they consistently refuse to do so, then Step #2 can be followed.
3) Step #2: “take with thee one or two more”
These extra 1 or 2 people are not just to automatically believe everything that is told them about the guilty party; nor are they to immediately join in this second step. Their initial work involves 3 things:
1) - Determine if the guilty party has in fact committed sin against you.
2) - Determine if you have in fact followed the first step properly and in the right spiritual manner.
3) - Bring the guilty party, including yourself if you are shown to have done wrong, to repentance, so that peace can again be achieved between you two as well as in God’s church and movement.
This investigative work is necessary because these extra people must know whether you are correct that sin has indeed been committed against you by the guilty party, and they also need to know whether you have properly and lovingly followed the first step. If their investigation reveals that you have not correctly followed the first step, they must reprove you and refuse to go along with you any further in following this second step until you have properly performed the first step in the correct spiritual manner. If you have properly followed this first step and they are convinced that the guilty party has committed sin against you and remains unrepentant, then they are to lovingly and unselfishly join with you in seeking to bring the guilty party to repentance.
The command of Christ was to “take with thee one or two more”, meaning that you are all together to meet with the guilty, not each separately meeting with the guilty party. Being all together allows the issue to be established and verified “in the mouth of two or three witnesses” because you all saw and heard what took place when meeting with the guilty party at the same time.
This second step cannot be rushed through, but sufficient time must be given for proper investigation, prayerful contemplation of the evidence, and also to allow the Holy Spirit to work on convicting and softening the heart or hearts of the guilty in order to bring them to repentance. There is no set time limit involved in following Step #2, because it all depends on how the guilty party consistently responds to your united loving and proper Christian efforts to bring them to repentance.